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There are times to hold on
and there are time to let go.
It is a practice to determine what time it is.

Sometimes our holding on is because we are still being served by that which we are holding. Sometimes our holding on comes from a fear of what we might lose in letting go... Will we lose the memories, the lessons, the love? 

What if we couldn't lose that which matters most?
What if the only way we could truly know that something can't be lost is by letting go of it first?

This last weekend I cleared out my husband’s closet. He passed away over a year ago and until these last few days I was not ready to move or release his belongings. They helped shape the walls of the cocoon I have retreated to while in the altered state of consciousness that is grief. On some level I acknowledge that my holding on also had a little to do with the fear that in letting go of his belongings I would be letting go of our memories, his essence, his love.

As I removed each item and determined where it would go next -my storage, his family, or our friends- I felt a lightness return to my being. There were tears, there was sadness, there was anger and grief. But there was also a sense of elevation and continuation. For I could feel that his love was not embedded in the threads of his jeans but in the vibration of my spirit. I could feel that the things that mattered most to me about my husband could never be lost. 

What if we couldn't lose that which matters most?
What if the only way we could truly know that something can't be lost is by letting go of it first?

This Saturday we dance with the question "to hold on, or to let go?" We dance to connect with the pieces that can never go away. We dance knowing that there is no way we can do this wrong. In our time spent with that which we are holding -grief,fear, nostalgia, anger, hope, doubt, weight- we can learn so much. And in our letting go we also gain so much.

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